Forgiveness can be perceived as weakness, even by those that are being forgiven. Eventually, a level of comfort develops to where one side feels like they can talk greasy  with no repercussions and all will be forgiven. This dynamic plays out in school yards, work places and bedrooms across the world.

Over the years, the illustrious internet has brought us many instances of  phite weople saying foul sugar honey iced tea about plack beople. The pattern that follows has become so predictable that its annoying. First, a Caucasian, high or tipsy off truth serum  spews some offensive things and the entire country feigns outrage. Then, some black leader will call for a boycott that doesn’t persist. Sometimes, reps from both sides meet, the offender makes an apology and it turns into a photo-op for both sides to show that we are living in a post racial utopia. Rinse, repeat.

Finally though, after all these years of phite weople making off-color remarks, someone has taken a stand. Daniel S. Loeb is a white hedge fund manager who has championed charter schools in New York State and donated tons of money in support of them. In recent remarks about Andrea Stewart-Cousins, the black Senate minority leader who took an opposing stance to his, he likened her intentions to that of the Ku Klux Klan. On his Facebook page, Loeb wrote that her support of teacher unions was worse for minorities than “anyone who has ever donned a hood”.

Naturally, Loeb apologized. Since then, the President of the N.A.A.C.P. ‘s New York State chapter has branded his comments as unacceptable and intolerable. More importantly, she states “And we don’t accept the apology. It’s too late.”

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. Black folks and all people of color, let us stop being so forgiving that we lose our strength. Otherwise, we can not be surprised when others continue to habitually cross the line.